Two Revelations of Love

love revelations

All of our relationships, in particular with the one we love, exist for a dual purpose, along with their great promise. First, most of us understand that our partner in life is there to help us grow, and to awaken and stir in us, accordingly, an awareness of love’s highest possibilities. But the other – and equally important half of this same purpose and promise – without which the first part can’t succeed – is as follows: our partner in life is also there to help us see everything in us that now stands in the way of our coming to realize this same higher love.

Here are two transformational revelations of love.

#1 – Learn the True Basis of Compassion

It probably often seems that your partner knows how to push the wrong button in you, and always at exactly the wrong time. It’s as if they wait for you to say, “Yes,” to something, so that then they can say, “No.” You would really like to learn how to be more patient with them than you are, but you don’t have a clue where to begin.

No doubt it’s challenging to deal with anyone, let alone a loved one who contradicts us at every turn. But becoming impatient and blaming them for their unconscious actions is like yelling at a toaster to stop burning your bread! The real solution to this, and to all similar situations rests within you, not with your partner.

We can only bear some negative characteristic in someone else that we have learned to consciously bear in ourselves…which means none of us can be truly compassionate until we know what it means to suffer ourselves for the sake of something greater than ourselves: unconditional love.

#2 – See Love in Action

It may seem impossible at times to let go and let love lead us through the trials we face with our partner. We all want to believe in higher love – to be able to act with the kind of compassion that is not just our possibility, but our responsibility, as well. So how can we begin to see this power, so that we might build a greater trust in it?

First we must realize it’s not enough to just “believe” in the power of love; billions profess this belief, and yet…billions still hurt one another in the name of love. We must learn to see – with “new eyes” – that love is within and around us at all times. For instance, here’s an example of something that’s always been right before us, as a fact of life, but that has remained just out of sight.

The love we have for anything holy, beautiful, or true is present in our heart before we can think of any reason for the love that we feel. The breathtaking light at sunset, that strain of delicate music, or watching a mother tenderly embrace her child: these moments don’t create the love we feel for what we see before us; these moments reveal the presence, and the power of a love that already lives in us! Do take a moment to consider all that this insight implies: it isn’t we who find things to love, but rather that Love finds – through us –a way to reach us, and to teach us that She lives in and through all things…including us.

Excerpted from Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together by Guy Finley.

©2018 Guy Finley

Used by permission from Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd.

Guy Finley
Best-selling Letting Go author Guy Finley's encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas cut straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues: relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom and lead the way to a higher life. Finley is the acclaimed author of The Secret of Letting Go and more than 30 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 16 languages worldwide. In addition, he has presented over 4,000 unique self-realization seminars to thousands of grateful students throughout North America and Europe over the past 20 years and has been a guest on over 400 television and radio shows, including national appearances on ABC,NBC, CBS, CNN, NPR, Wisdom Network, and many others. His syndicated weekly radio program is aired on several international networks including Healthylife Radio Network, WorldTalkRadio Network, and Contact Talk Radio International. Finley is Director of Life of Learning Foundation, the renowned non-profit Center for Self-study in Merlin, Oregon, and his popular Key Lesson e-mails are read each week by 400,000 subscribers in 142 countries. His work is widely endorsed by doctors, business professionals, celebrities, and religious leaders of all denominations. In addition to his writing and appearance schedule, Guy presents four inner-life classes each week at Life of Learning Foundation headquarters in Merlin, Oregon. These classes are ongoing and open to the public. For more information about Guy Finley, and his life-changing work, visit or